How To Reframe With NLP
Yesterday I had a client call me 10 minutes prior to our scheduled meeting to say he was an hour away. Did I yell and scream, did I burst into tears and tell him he was a heartless b#@”*&^?
Maybe, maybe not, but I did use the time wisely. I say wisely, I suppose I should let you decide that because I did a reframe and this is how you can too.
Hi Tim, it’s great to see you! I’m glad you decided to try a video post. To be honest, I’ve been slacking a bit with mental habit changing. This video was a great new thing to remind me about reframing and I really needed it.
When I need to reframe and forget that option is available to me, it’s crazy to think how simple and effective it is, but just slips by if unremembered. How nice it would be to be in the habit of reframing every day!
Thanks Tim, for letting me and everyone know of my broken link. I think I’ve got it fixed now.
The different impressions are good. :) They keep getting better.
Marelisa, that is a great way to put it – tell yourself a different story about it. If the story had a positive point instead of a negative one (and any story can), then what would it say or how would it be told? I’m going to use that too. I’m getting lots of good teaching strategies here.
@ Marelissa – I couldn’t agree more, that’s EXACTLY what reframing is.
Hi Tim: What a great idea to have a video-post. Reframing to me is like choosing to tell yourself a different story about the event. Like if you say hello to someone and they don’t greet you back, you can tell yourself a story along the lines of “There must be something wrong with me, that’s why he didn’t say ‘hello’ back.” Or you can tell yourself that the other person didn’t hear you, they didn’t realize you were talking to them, or they’re simply having a bad day. I completely agree with you that reframing is a great strategy.
@ Jennifer – Different impressions? Yikes, not sure about that ;-)
BTW, I’ve noticed for the 2nd time that you posted a broken link back to your site so for anybody that wants to check out what you’re up to:
http://www.principlesforpeace.com
Loved the video. This is basically what I teach people in a nutshell. I love the illustration of reframing. I’m going to steal it. I’ll give you credit of course. :)
Loved seeing you on video. I just keep getting different impressions of you all the time. You look different in the video than in your pic. Hope you post more videos. Great job!
@ JEMi – I don’t think anything I have done has been described as cool this side of 1988, thanks!
@ Laurie – That’s not really a reframe but it’s a great outcome and that’s what we’re after! Homework excused ;-)
@ Ali – Now THAT’S a reframe. A+ and a gold star to boot.
Thanks for posting that, Tim. :-) Very cool to see/hear you — I’m impressed that you actually talk the way you write…!
So here’s my “homework” done: I’ve got a ton of project-stuff to catch up on after a holiday — blog writing, website design, etc. But rather than carrying on like I was half an hour ago and staring in despair at my still-to-do list, I’m gonna have a FUN day today, getting on with the things that matter to me (I have the day off work). In particular, I’m gonna enjoy getting as much done on my website as possible, because it is starting to look cool and because my business cards with the new URL on have arrived…
So it’s going to be an exciting, challenging, adventure-some day!
Ali
Cool. I like the accent.
There have been several things in life that I have tried to reframe the latest being my job. I was in a job where I really took a beating. Not being use to that, I was very down and despaired about it. BUT it lead me on to beginning my business which will totally float my boat. If I hadn’t gone through the year of hell, I wouldn’t be where I am heading now and this will be so awesome.
SO does that count for reframing? Does that count as the homework? I can probably come up with another one before the end of the day; after all, I have two teenage boys. I’m sure something will trigger the need.
I’ll have you know that I was delighted – *tickled pink* in fact – to see you live! Very cool! And though you gave us homework on the first round, the video post was darn useful and so I did it (under the threat of getting no food of course)
You really should do these on a regular basis.
Oh – and love the accent! :-D