Let’s See Some Commitment

Even though every word in the English language has a literal meaning that meaning can still be open to personal interpretation.

Think of words like success, freedom, peace, happiness and love and you will understand what I mean. They can, and do, mean completely different things to different people.

When you say freedom for instance, you may mean financial freedom. Yet somebody else may mean freedom of speech, or freedom to travel, or freedom to bear arms, or even emotional freedom.

When I help a client understand their core values I have to be very aware of what they mean with the words they use and not necessarily how I relate to each word.

As such, I always start the process by asking them what they mean by the values they give me thus avoiding any potential misunderstandings later on.

I was thinking about this as I was reading through the 28 e-mails from people that had applied for free life coaching.

I’d asked for a story in under 1,000 words about commitment. It didn’t necessarily have to be a story about personally commitment (although in all but two cases that is what I got), but it had to be something that epitomized the word in some way, shape or form.

The reality is though, as I pointed out above, commitment is completely subjective and doesn’t mean the same thing to every person. This was was highly apparent reading some of the applications.

I had 3 e-mails come in after the deadline (one of whom gets a pass as she wasn’t sure of which time zone I was in), 3 that didn’t even have a story at all and another 2 from people that obviously could easily afford to hire a life coach if they really wanted to.

Do any of those demonstrate true commitment?

Well possibly and I’m genuinely not knocking those people, but I have to be honest and say they were the easiest for me to rule out when I had so many to chose from.

There were some brilliant examples of not just commitment, but stories of people overcoming the kind of adversity that I’m just grateful never to have encountered in the first place.

I have to be honest, I felt completely overwhelmed when I’d read them all and my ‘maybe’ pile was waaaay bigger than my ‘no’ pile. How the hell was I going to narrow this down to one person?

And then the answer came to me, don’t bother! Completely cop put and let your lovely, intelligent and wise readers do it for you. After all, they know self development and they know commitment, right?

So here’s what I’m going to do.

I have e-mailed the 6 people that I think offered the best stories on commitment and asked them to re-send me their story again. This time however I want them to tell you in 350 words or less why I should life coach them for free.

This is a pain in the ass I know, but that’s what commitment is all about and if somebody now thinks “Oh I can’t be bothered” then they weren’t really ever that committed.

I’ll even add a runner up prize of a free session on values (or anything else for that matter) that will help another person clarify where they are and where they want to go.

If you received my e-mail, here’s how it will work.

  • I will only print stories from people who I have already contacted via e-mail – no exceptions and this is not a test!
  • All stories will be published anonymously
  • Any story longer than 350 words will not be published. There is no minimum
  • All stories must be in my inbox by 7.00pm Eastern Standard Time on Thursday 28th October  – no exceptions because I’ll be editing the post on Thursday evening and I want a life!
  • The winner will be the person that has received the most either via e-mail or in the comment section
  • If it’s a tie I will go all dictatorial and make the casting decision myself
  • The winner will be announced in my newsletter the first week of November

Final Note: Even narrowing this down to 6 was genuinely very tough. I suspect some people that wrote to me may be be thinking “What a bastard, what did I do wrong?” The honest answer is nothing, and the sheer fact you took the time to e-mil means you have shown commitment, so  I hope we’re still cool?